R
I can't go to your colleague's wedding with you.
just let you know earlier so you can tell them.sorry.
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I guess you are mad at me because I did not eat with you this weekend, or that
I asked you to go bowling and you thought it was because someone else
cancelled, or because I was away in Keelung on Saturday. I understand. Its ok.
If small things make you upset so easily I guess I can't do anything.
It is a shame, but I understand some people are like that.
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How can you say that.I think you don't understand me at all.
I didn't mad at you because we didn't meet this weekend,neither the bowling
thing on friday.
these days we been hanging out a lot, it was fun hanging out with you.
I thought, maybe, something there between us,
but since last time you canceled the dinner with me, and you think I was mad
at you becasue you didn't rent the car to take me out,
that is not what I mad about, when you talked to me on the phone that
friday, you sounds like you got all the plan to go out with me before meet
Alexs,but I just don't understand why you don't even think you should unless
give me a call and tell me you didn't rent a car,and we won't go out during
the day.
so I guess maybe you just like some people, only say it but not mean it.
and this friday,you just keep saying you go bowling all because she
cancelled the dinner with you.what do you expect me to think? I'm the one
there have no idea whatz going on,your friend suddenly show up and you
didn't mention you would bring a friend with you,so what would I think is
maybe because she cancelled the dinner so you just ask me out.
all of these mess let me felt it was a misunderstanding,and maybe I think
too much.so I'm a little traditional,but as a chinese,I don't think I should
go to the wedding with you.it is already too confusing,I don't want other
people think we are together but actually we are not.
that's the reason I said I can't go to the wedding.
if you still think i'm like some other people,I'll say it is a shame too.
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A
You cannot go to the wedding? You don't want to. Here you are not direct with
me.
You said "keep saying you go bowling...."? I mentioned it once. Never kept
mentioning it, just once.
We are not together? Ok. I understand.
Also, even though the dinner with May and Joan was cancelled, I thought we
should invite May to bowling as she is going through a very difficult preiod at
the moment. Her mother is terminally ill in hospital with cancer and she spends
every weekend with her mother in the hospital. I thought you might understand
the situation.
R
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R
>You cannot go to the wedding? You don't want to. Here you are not direct
>with me.
if I can't clearly know whatz really beween us,then I don't want to go to
this occasion with you.
>You said "keep saying you go bowling...."? I mentioned it once. Never kept
>mentioning it, just once.
you said twice,after we found out we got off the wrong station, you said it
again to your friend May.and I heard that.so not only once!
>We are not together? Ok. I understand.
are we? you think we are together? you never say so,and I certainly can't
strongly feel that,we just meet each other once or twice a week,and almost
no connection during the week.if you said we are together,then I really get
confused.
>Also, even though the dinner with May and Joan was cancelled, I thought we
>should invite May to bowling as she is going through a very difficult
>preiod at the moment. Her mother is terminally ill in hospital with cancer
>and she spends every weekend with her mother in the hospital. I thought you
>might understand the situation.
I don't mind how many friends u invited at all,I have no problem to get
alone with them,but,see~ how would I know whatz really happend to her,and
why you didn't tell me you'll invite her because you suppose to meet them
for dinner.
maybe all these things for you just very normal,and you never think you
should tell anyone about this.
I was always got shock since I met you.everytime you asked me out,sometimes
I thought it would be only two of us,but many times there's whole bunch of
people with you,and you didn't tell me before we meet.none of my friends
would do this,unless we'll tell each other where to go, when to meet,and if
someone will bring friends we don't know or so.
so I guess you are just some kinda person who different then my normal
friends.
or it just because we don't know each other well enough.so we would
misunderstand so much since last couple weeks.
so,I won't say we are together,there's too many things we don't really know
about each other,and I don't know if you keen to know me or want to build up
the relationship with me or not.but I just can't feel that.
I don't mind to go out with you or meet other of your friends or colleagues,
but for the wedding thing,I'll only go wedding with the guy who is my boy
friend.
A
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A
Ok, I won't waste your time then. You are busy and can't spare the time to get
to know me.
I understand if your work is important. I am not going to argue on the email
about who spends how much time to go where to meet whom, but I know what the
real situation is.
It is not worth it if you are too busy anyway and can't afford the time to meet
me in ANY situation.
I think you already made the decision about us.
R
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R
whatz all these about?????????
everytime you ask me out, did I ever say because I'm too busy so I don't
want go out with you? you are the one who always change the time and date to
meet,and you always have so many other thing to do,I don't even think I have
the brave to ask you out as you too often have somthing else to do.
and do u have any idea how I work over night every day but still fix my time
to go out with you on the weekend? and you just cancelled the date because
you have clients to meet,I can totally understand that.but how could you
know because you cancelled the date, I asked many of my friends to go to bar
that friday,but I have to cancel with them as well,and they all blame me.
and the next day,you did the strange thing again,and I'm just like an idiot
wait for you to call and go out.you totally depress me,and I'm feel so tired
to trying so hard to build up the relationship with you.
and I thought this friday would make up the unhappy feeling for last
time,but since you went away for entire weekend,I think you don't want to
spend time with me.and if you think I told you I was busy this weekend,and
you can't feel I was just making fun,then that is misunderstanding.
if you really calm down and think what I've said and what I've done,you will
know it is really UNFAIR for you to blame me that I'm too busy to want to
spend time with you.I just can't believe you would say this to me.or you are
the one don't want to spend time with me? just say so......
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A
You were also supposed to lunch with me last Thursday. You never called, and
when I called you, you had already arranged your friend Yvonne to come. But I
still joined you because we had agreed and I did not want to let you down.
Also, Friday night, you also invited your other friend (Bah Ming) before you or
I knew May would come with us. It was never two of us for the lunch or the
bowling, and not because of me. I think you forget things that don't suit your
own comments.
However, these things I don't care about, because there is too much more to
life than worrying about small things. But since you bring it up, I have a good
memory and I can recall many things if you would like me to. I don't care about
the things I wrote above, but you seem to make so much of those petty matters.
Life is too short and there is so much more to do than spend time thinking
about those type of things.
R
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R
ok, I think there's a big misunderstanding between us.I would laugh really
hard right now.
you think there's never dinner/luch only two of us,and I think the same way
as well,
I don't want to keep saying these petty things,but I think I have to explain
to you,
last thursday the lunch thing,I was really surprise you would call,coz that
night when I talked to you on the phone, I felt you sounds really tired and
when I ask you for lunch, you said you don't know.I thought maybe you don't
want to come.so I didn't call on thursday because I don't want to push you
too much.so when Yvonne called and said she want to come,I just said ok.
and friday bowling,you asked Yvoon to come when we had lunch together,u
remember? so when I told a-min about it, I said Ralph ask Yvoon to join too,
so a-min said she wants to come as well.
I always hope we can have more time only two of us,but seems I don't really
know what you think about us,as a waman, I don't like being too aggressive
or even push people too much.I don't know you are like that as well,
so, I guess all these are clear now,can we stop fighting and say something
nice to each other?
A
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A
Yes, its silly arguing. But at least I get to know you better.
I can tell you on the phone what I found out about you this way.
I am just back to the office so will call you later.
R
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