There is a pattern for a relationship, once you've had it once, you just know what to expect and how to deal with when it comes again.It is always passionate at the beginning, everything seems just right to each other, despite that fact that he is a jerk in real life, and she is a bitch among her friends. There is this magic string that holds two parties together, and there is always hope.
However, it's just a matter of time for either one to reveal him/herself of what a lousy person he/she actually is, well maybe it's a radical word to apply for the judgement, but "less than perfect" would do. What you used to think as the sweetest rubbish now turns into real rubbish, what you used to see as the sweetiest now evolves to mundane, who you used to pay the most attention to now hardly has your eyes laid on, things you used to be so passionate now are just mind numbing tasks. What is the spirit that a relationship holds?
Soul? sex? or just a human basic need that to have somebody to snuggle?
It's no general way to say that, but girls in a relationships tend to be more affectionate and attentive, we easily get pleased, and easily get mind blown off. We always expect our boyfriends to read our mind rather than telling them what we really want and need, however, when telepathicking doesn't happen, we question: do they ever care about us??
Instead of riding an emotional rollercoaster, I've discovered, as long as we don't hold too much expection, we don't get as much disappointment. So ladies and gentlemen, one thing to keep in mind, love yourselves the most. Couple things to start with about EXPECTATION, do you get tucked in when you are in bed?? Do you get a pamper when you cough?? Do you receive surprise that you once accidentally mentioned?? is he/sher awake and give you a welcome hug and kiss when you go to bed? does he/she volunteer to help you out with something that seems to be inaccompliashable by you??? maybe there are enough freaky ideas, but you always wonder, why do i sweat about small things that he never seems to notice?? EXPECTATION. Don't expect anything, then no disappointment and argument. Why is that leniency and mercy seem to be easily given to friends, but not to those that we have relationships with?? EXPECTATION, when don't get what you expect, your emotion doesn't let go easily.
Inspiration: for her, take the most advantage of the beginning of a relationship, because that's probably the only time you can get what you want. For him, if you don't agree to change yourself, then change a girlfriend. Sooner or later, the truth reveals, everbody is independent individual, how can you expect your significant others to give up his/her personality and be a clone of yourself? it's a chronic compromising game, eventually two people become one, and either one is no longer the one you used to remember.
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