I was getting my haircut yesterday when this Vietmamese lady told me about her perspective for a mix culture marriage. She realized my hardship of getting a job and getting to stay in this alien territory and she KINDLY offered me a suggestion which would be the last thing become happen to me, to find an Amerian and get married. How easy to say it! But it would save me 5~10 years of time for the process and paper work, and most importantly, money.
When women are getting more successful and powerful at career, they return home with grocery, diapers and husband/boyfriend's daily necessities. The only thing that doesn't change is the way this society views women as appendage of men, or maybe women don't want to be treated as independent individuals. Maybe it's too judgemental to say, but women are more likely to be emotionally attached, while most men are emotionally detached.
I didn't rebut the idea that she strong insisted and deeply believed, because that's what she has been through. She had no one to rely on when she first got here, who spoke no English and had no property, the only thing she could do to secure herself, was to pick up anyone who would marry her, which was way to easy for her to do so. Getting an Asian girl seems like a trophy to some American guys, specifically Caucasians. But it might not guarantee a happily after life as the marriage is dipped with some sort of mutual benefit. On the otherhand, mix culture marriages sometimes work out so well and last longer than traditional marriage, maybe it's contributed to Asian women who are more capable of keeping a house, who always quietly do the job, serve the husband with solicitousness and stay mute. Even if they found husband cheating, they pass off tears at night and work even harder to bring lost husbands back. Men don't appreicate that, becuase they feel no challenge.
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