Very important: We all love you!!!
Dear Alice,
Remember I was very happy when you told me you two were together. I thought he is a good guy and the feeling was like seeing my little sister going out with a nice guy. Last night, I felt so sad because I felt your hurt. However, I looked at this in a different perspective that you are actually blessed because you found out everything within a very short period of time. You didn't get fooled by his kindness and superficial package which other women will get trapped easily. You're looking for a true relationship and your intuition was correct. You have lots of great qualities. All you need is time. Here're some thoughts from Paul for your reference.
* Unfortunately, we're not teenagers anymore and expecting to cement a relationship without intimacy is unrealistic. I perfectly know where you're coming from and it's not your fault.
* This is clumsiness on his part. He didn't know how to romance you. This is serious business.
* A guy who wants to sleep with another woman will not wait more than 2 or 3 dates. A guy only interested in sleeping with her would have walked away a long time ago. So he tried.
* Intimacy will help make a relationship stonger, not always of course. But if the other ingredients are there, then it's like a cement it holds things together.
*You know what...you didn't really want him anyway. Otherwise you would have acted differently. It's subconscious. A woman will go to bed if she feels comfortable. I know you were starting to get comfortable having intimacy with him, but he became such a fool, stupid guy.
* He didn't make you feel like you could trust him.
* He didn't like to "talk" (the real talk). That's probably why.
* You were just chasing a dream. You were hoping he would change. Don't blame herself, he is not worth it.
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