Today is the 20th-year anniversary of Tiananmen Square event (/massacre). The images of tanks, guns, and blood resurfaced (in my mind and in media).
今天是六四天安門事件(屠殺)的二十周年 坦克槍彈鮮血的畫面重現
When I read the NPR website, I found the readers’ comments interesting.
There were some messages defending Chinese government; the essence of the comments are: (a) the democracy works in the US/Western countries does not necessary work in China, given the different history and cultural differences; (b) people should be more empathetic about past actions (abuse?).
當我在閱讀美國國家公共廣播電台的新聞站時 我覺得讀者的回應很有趣
某些讀者為中國政府辯護著:
[適用在歐美的民主制度不見得可以直接套用在中國] [我們要體諒某些非常時期的非常行動]
The defensiveness in their comments sounds exactly like the younger siblings of the trauma clients who deny abuse actually happened in the family. They idealize the parental figures to so they can continue loving the parents and living in the dysfunctional family.
這些辯護讓我想到創傷個案有時候會分享他們的其他兄弟姊妹可能會否認他們所受到的虐待
否認讓他們能夠將父母理想化 所以他們可以繼續愛父母 也繼續留在失功能的家庭當中
Underlying such idealization is the black and white thinking pattern (or un-integrated objet relations) that associates with depression, borderline personality disorder, and other pathology.
I realized that the lack of democracy in Asian countries is related to a collective, societal level of depressive and borderline personality disorder.
藏在著理想化的背後是一種非黑即白的思考模式 (或者說 是客體關係的未整合)
這樣的模式與憂鬱症邊緣性人格等精神疾病有高度的相關
或許在民主尚未發展的亞洲國家
缺乏民主造就出集體性的憂鬱及邊緣性社會人格
The South Korean ex-president just committed suicide because of ONE scandal. One scandal turned him from White to become Black; so, he chose to end his own life.
For so many years in China, under the totalitarian regime, party equals to country, and equals to White. One criticism equals to betraying the country; it turns a person from White to Black. One Black person, then, turns the whole family into Black. (For thousand years, in Ancient Chinese dynasties, if one governor got power, the whole extended family got power; if this governor got exiled, the whole extended family got exiled.)
So, the Black and White style of controlling was instilled from a larger political context to the personal household through oppression and trauma, affecting personal mental health.
南韓前任總統自殺 只因為[一件]醜聞 [一件]醜聞就讓一個人[由白變黑]到選擇結束自己的生命
中國多年來在獨裁政權下 黨等於國 等於[白] [一個]批評就等於背叛國家 將批評者[由白轉黑] 一個變黑的人就會把整個家庭也變黑
數千年來 中國的官員 一人得道雞犬升天 一人枉法罪誅九族
非黑即白的控制模式就這樣透過壓迫與創傷
由政治結構穿透到個別家庭 影響個人心理健康
The basic goal of emotions is to bring about physical movement: to approach or to avoid “object”. Controlling involves evoking strong emotions. This rule applies from personal interaction, advertising, election persuasion, to propaganda broadcasting. A totalitarian regime or an abusive parent/partner knows how to control by evoking strong emotions.
The Black and White thinking is infused with strong emotions, such as strong fear, love, rage.
One of the products is the perfectionism.
情緒的基本目的就是帶出行動:趨近或逃離
控制通常包含著引發強烈的情緒
不管是個人溝通 廣告 選舉造勢
獨裁政權與加害者都知道要如何引發強烈情緒以達到控制的目的
非黑即白的思考模式就與各種強烈情緒融合 (恐懼 愛 憤怒)
其中ㄧ個產物就是[完美主義]
Research indicated that perfectionism has high correlation with Asian American’s and Asian’s depression and suicidal rate.
Also, from my observation, the romantic relationship depicted in Asian TV soap operas often involve strong, intense emotional enmeshment followed by emotional cutoff (Finding one mistake leads to break-up, break-up leads to suicidal threats).
Under the stereotypical surface of politeness and quietness, Asian people often have high emotional intensity when talking to in-group.
研究顯示 完美主義與亞洲人或亞裔美國人的憂鬱症以及自殺率有高度相關
就我個人觀察 亞洲電視劇裡面的愛情戲常常包括著強烈地情緒黏合 然後接著就是完全地切斷情緒連結 (例如因為誤會或一個錯誤就跟對方分手 然後 分手導致鬧自殺)
在安靜有禮的刻板印象之下 亞洲人與自己人講話的時候常常有很強的情緒
(PS: Do Asian people love to watch main characters with borderline personality disorder, and American people love to watch main characters with narcissistic personality disorder or PTSD?)
(PS: 是不是亞洲人喜歡看有邊緣人格的男女主角而美國人喜歡看有自戀人格或創傷後壓力症候群的男女主角?)
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