Paster Dave has been preaching about Relationships ”again”.
My, isn’t he bored? However, I have to be very honest with you that though the title/message seems boaring, the inspiration was still as freash. Today, he introduced ”Rules for the ’Talk and Listen’ Session” in the message which I find very helpful (& needed) and would like to share.
1. Define the topic: give a title
2. Don’t say ”You always...” instead say”When you ...I feel...”
3. Don’t attack the person, attack the problem
4. One talks the over listens. The person who listens can only say:
i. ”So you are saying...”
ii. ”Is there anything else?”
iii. ”Please slow down.”
iiii. ”I can’t handle this.” (but don’t use it as an excuse, you should handle it on another day)
5. You may not get angry
6. You may never raise your voice
7. Don’t assume motivations or intentions (only God know the person’s intentions)
8. Don’t expect change or resolve
9. Only expect to be heard
10. The main aim is communication
11. Each person gets a turn or you don’t do it
12. Don’t bring in other issues. Stick to the topic
13. One issue per person per session
14. Don’t rush
15. Dont’bring up things that happended on the same day
16. Hug and Kiss
I hightlighted some items that I think which I need to pay special attention to. oh~ there’s still a long way for me to reach the goal, ha...Anyway, it’s good.
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